When I was student, my father was used to tell me : “Get married my son while you are young. Fall in love and have kids, because your wife and your children will be your best motivation to achieve your dreams”. But my answer was always the same : “I can’t have children now dad because I am overhwelmed by my studies and I don’t have money to take care of a family”. And he would object : “Money will come my son because you’ll be compelled to work hard to succeed.”
20 years later, was my father right ? I still don’t know. But he was right about something : I need to fall in love, I need to have babies. Why ? Because when you love someone more than yourself it motivates you to work so much harder. You can’t procrastinate when you have a baby to feed. You can’t be lazy when someone loves you that much to spend her life with you. You want to deserve her love. And you know that if you fuck it up, no one will want to be with a looser.
I am 42. I achieved great things in my life but I deeply know that having a girl friend, a wife, a child would have helped me to do things that I haven’t done. They would have given me the additional motivation to not have been lazy many times. And most important at all, I would have had someone to recomfort me in my darkest moments. Having someone you love and that loves you in return is the best thing that can happen to a human being. And that is priceless. Having a child is like a second chance that mother nature gives you. You want the best for your children and for that, you must be a great parent.
In “The pursuit of Happiness” movie, based on a true story, you can see the hero, Chris Gardner, played by Will Smith, being quited by his wife, kicked out of his appartment, losing his job and having to take care of his 2 years old son. He suddenly had no wife, no money, no roof. He could have lost it all but he had the best reason to bounce back : his little son and the amazing love he has for him. He wanted to offert to his son what he never received from his own father : a presence, love and care. He made it and I cried. His courage and with his achievement are a life lesson. And now I am ready. Ready to love, to be loved and have babies. Because now, I am not afraid any more about how hard life can be. I just know that no matter what happens, I know I will be able to take care about them like I never was able to care care of myself. I am ready. I wish you to be ready my friends because your biggest reward will not to be successful but to share your dreams with those you love the most in the world and it’s worth trying because fear and courage are just choices. Make the right one. Have a great day my friends.
Ps : I thank very much this lovely couple that God if exists, made me encounter last year, during my 3 month stay in New York. That day I decided to discover Brooklyn instead of doing some street style photography in Manhattan as usual. I was living in Dumbo and decided to walk around Brooklyn Heights. It was a sunny day, everything looked beautiful to me. I was in love with life. And then I saw them on the other side of the street. They made me melt. Clic, clac ! Now it’s your turn to share.