2014 is here ! What it means for you : new resolutions, new diet, new projects, new life …? Another year and we always promise ourselves to be better, to do better and one year later, what happens ? We haven’t done any of the things we promised ourselves to do. I know that because I belong to these millions of persons who lies to themselves. I lied to myself so many times. And you know why ? It because I don’t like my life enough, I don’t respect me enough. The problem : if you lie to yourself too many times or for too long, sooner or later, you’ll have to pay the price.
It leads me to what my father was used to tell me when I was student : “Kamel, get married now and have children while you are young !”. My answer to him was always the same : “Dad, I am only 20 !! I am too young to get married, I want to enjoy life before. I don’t want to loose my freedom. In addition I am a student, I won’t be able to manage a student life and a family life in the same time Dad.”. My father who comes from a village in the mouton of Algeria. Because of that, I always thought of him that he was just lost in this modern world where other laws apply. Now that I am 40, single once again, guess what I think ? He was right and he deserves apologies from his arrogant and ignorant son.
Am I telling you that I should have been married and have children ? Not really. What I am telling you is that I should have handled my professional life as if I was in charge of a family. Why ? Because I wouldn’t have been so arrogant by refusing many job opportunities because not artistic or well paid enough. My biggest mistake : these professional opportunities were steps to get closer to achieving my own dreams, by widening my professional network, earning money and sparing it for my own projects… I would have took the right decisions if I had the mindset of a family man. I was arrogant. My father knew better.
What is the link with these street style and fashion week pictures from Paris and New York, from fashion shows like Chanel where gorgeous stylish women looks like angels ? There is no link. In fact, there is a link. My laptop broke few weeks ago. And it will cost me a leg to have it fixed. That’s why I haven’t been able to post an article for 2 weeks. Guess what if I haven’t refuse all my job opportunities ? I would have bought a new laptop in a blink of an eye and not lost any second of work. I would have had the time to look for different pictures to illustrate what’s going on in my mind.
Because my father was a family man, he knew the value of money, he new when to open his mouth and when to shut it up, accept the job and take the money. He has to remove pride from his mind because he couldn’t afford it. We all make mistake. It’s important for your own sake to tell yourself : “What if I was wrong ! What if he/she/they knew better ?”.
The good news : Life forgives to those who do mistakes but learn from them. Be humble and see big change in 2014 my friends. Have a great day.
Thank you very much Aleksandra Melnichenko for your candid participation. Can you thank your beautiful and stylish friends for me too ?